Growth isn’t always viewable
Part of relax and refocus is doing as Steven Covey put it, “Keep the main thing the main thing.” Some of the things that help me relax and refocus are:
Getting off the platform and out among the people.
At times I sit on the second or third pew for most of a service. I don’t feel strongly about having to be on a platform. Whether on a platform or near the back, I am comfortable with the fact that I’m the pastor.
(Those who know how tightly wound I am are falling out laughing at that statement right now). Pastor, it helps if you can laugh at yourself as well as at some of the crazy things that happen at church.
Handle “situations” as quietly as possible.
On one occasion, we had a fellow visit who tremendously enjoyed our music and liberated praise. This gentleman was dressed in an Elvis Presley sort of leisure suit straight out of the late 1960s. He chose to sit on the front pew and commenced to not only join in dancing before the Lord, but to also make quite a spectacle of it. He was spinning and whirling. I mean he was really rocking the place. Soon almost every eye was on him and if that dancing man was praising Jesus, he was the only one in the building. After watching for a bit, I did my own bit of dancing right over to where he was spinning and whirling – got in step with him and whispered in his ear, “You are making a bit of a spectacle of yourself; come on back over here to the front pew or I’ll have the ushers seat you somewhere else.” Together, he and I danced over to the front pew. He behaved the rest of the night.
- The music could have been shut down in order for me to handle the matter by telling him from the pulpit to sit down. To have done so would have deflated what was to that point, a rather interesting night. The problem was addressed and most people didn’t even know it had been taken care of.
Don’t take your personal frustrations to the pulpit.
A friend in South Louisiana said his wife rebuked him after one service by saying, “Ronnie, tonight you preached out of your ‘mad’ and not out of your anointing.” People tend to know when we are preaching out of our “mad.” Just don’t do it!
While no single thing in this is particularly problematic, being off a bit here and a bit there causes a church service to be less effective.